Listening to one of the most lovely and technically perfect coaching conversations I’ve ever heard (and I hear a lot of them), gives me an entirely new concept of what is possible in this most wonderful of professions.
First, Coach had long ago mastered the structure of the
coaching conversation. All was natural
for her with no attention whatsoever on herself. All the competencies were there.
Coach accepted her client as whole, complete, and worthy of
Coach’s trust. The trust and intimacy
was paramount and stunningly moving.
Yet, Coach never became attached to client’s story even as she
brilliantly reframed it as needed.
What followed were the natural outcomes from the coaching
structure: clear agenda, full trust and intimacy … then coaching presence,
listening, perfect powerful questions … well, all of it.
Coach took no more than 30 minutes during which time she
explored what her client wanted to do, find, experience about a part of her
life. Once again, there was no attention
on what Coach wanted although Coach found it necessary to take a risk and “walk
her client to the edge” where she (client) could make a decision to go
forward. Coach was brilliant, kind,
caring and unyieldingly committed to her client finding a way.