Essential to the effectiveness of a coaching conversation is the capacity of the coach to be fully present throughout the session.
That sounds so basic, so simple, so obvious.
It isn’t any of those.
Coaching Presence will likely occupy my blog and other work for as long as there are coaches … which I hope will be forever.
In this brief blog I will talk about spontaneity … one of the criteria to describing and recognizing this core competency (Coaching Presence) in use … or missing … as the case may be.
Think of it this way: responding in the moment to what your client just said is the perfect spontaneous expression of being fully present. It’s not possible to plan for a spontaneous moment. It’s only possible to respond to it. Given the coaching subject matter (client’s agenda or agreement) does not belong to the coach, there seems to be no purpose in being other than spontaneous.
When listening to a coach in a session, it’s clear and obvious when the coach is drawing ideas from his/her (coach’s) own ideas, thoughts, suggestions, references, directions, and expertise. There’s simply nothing spontaneous going on.
Think about it. I call it “being in your head” irrespective of what’s going on with your client.
More on this.