Stories enliven a conversation … not long stories, not stories to prove something or be directive… but stories that somehow seem appropriate in the moment and simply appear seemingly from nowhere. There is nothing inauthentic about a story … it is always the real deal … even when a name or organization cannot be mentioned.
There is an underside to storytelling that must be discerned.
It is easy to become enmeshed (entangled) within a story as it
is told. `Enmeshed` can become rather
complicated as it`s not empathy although it can be sympathy wherein coach
identifies strongly with the situation.
When coach and client become enmeshed in one another`s story
the following can happen:
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Coach ceases to be a partner and instead joins
on the side of the client or situation
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Client no longer has someone to listen without
attachment or agenda (destroys the coach-client relationship)
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Story can become a directive telling client how
to behave or what to do
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Coach asks informational questions far more
often than helpful
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